Life is tough. Some are working their asses off to get a meal on the table while others were born with a silver spoon in their mouth. These are the facts of life and how it’s always been and how it’s most likely always going to be. It’s just nature.
Something I’ve noticed though is that it seems some people seem to want to have it hard. Do you know what I mean? Like, have you ever heard people arguing about how “they had it so bad” and use it as an excuse to justify their actions? Sorry (not sorry), but that’s total bullshit.
You don’t have to be a victim of your circumstances. Your life is completely in your control. If you’re someone that constantly complains that they can’t do this because (insert excuse about their position), I take that as a direct confession that you most likely don’t want to change; that you enjoy being the victim of your circumstances.
I think there’s a psychological complex that people have that makes self-pity strangely addicting. They may not actively realize it, or even really actively want to do it, but they continue to do it without making any real changes to shift their circumstances.
How many times can you complain about the same thing without realizing that you’re doing literally nothing to change the circumstances? How long can you sit around and blame everything/everyone around you for your issues before you take a moment to look in the mirror and see that you have to actively take steps to change? Are your problems even real, or are they just perceived out of an underlying desire to feel unique?
That’s not to say you’re not allowed to complain or have a few moments to feel sorry for yourself. Of course you are; it’s healthy to occasionally vent. But when this self-pity becomes a major pillar in your life and effects your relationships/happiness, it’s time to find a new strategy.